Tuesday, 5 October 2021

More Lessons from Martha and Mary

 Gospel • Luke 10:38-42


Jesus entered a village 

where a woman whose name was Martha welcomed him.

She had a sister named Mary

who sat beside the Lord at his feet listening to him speak. 

Martha, burdened with much serving, came to him and said,

“Lord, do you not care

that my sister has left me by myself to do the serving? 

Tell her to help me.” 

The Lord said to her in reply,

“Martha, Martha, you are anxious and worried about many things. 

There is need of only one thing. 

Mary has chosen the better part

and it will not be taken from her.”


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Commentary


Today we find Jesus in the home of the sisters, Mary and Martha. We know that they have a brother named Lazarus.  We meet the sisters again, showing the same characteristics as in this story, in John’s account of the raising from death of their brother (John 11:1-44).  They lived in Bethany, a village about 3-4 km from Jerusalem and it seems that Jesus was a familiar visitor to the house for at the time of Lazarus’ illness Jesus is told: “Your friend Lazarus is sick.”

The story of Martha and Mary is, in a way, a contrast to the previous story about the Good Samaritan. It restores a balance in our following of Christ. The story about being a neighbour could lead us to think that only if we are doing things are we loving God.

Martha was a doer to the point of being a fusspot. Martha, we are told, was “burdened with much serving”. Serving is something that Jesus himself did constantly and he urged his followers to do the same. But it should not be a burden. And, after Martha had complained about her sister, Jesus told her that she was “anxious and worried about many things”. A true servant does not experience anxiety and worry. It signifies a lack of peace.

Because Mary seemed to be doing nothing, Martha saw her as idling and even selfish. Martha must have been somewhat surprised when Jesus said that Mary had “chosen the better part” which would “not be taken from her”.

What was that better part? Was Mary just sitting at the feet of Jesus and doing nothing? No. We are told that she was “listening to him speak”. Listening to his message is something Jesus tells his disciples and the crowd they need to be doing all the time. And we have mentioned before that listening involves understanding, accepting and assimilating that message so that it becomes part of our very selves.

If we do not spend time listening to him, how can we know that our activity is properly directed? It is easy for us Christians to be very busy but are we busy about the right things?

To answer that question we have to stop to listen, to discern and to pray. And, ultimately, the highest form of activity in our lives is contemplation, being in conscious contact with God and his Word. If I find myself saying that I do not have time to give some time to prayer or contemplation each day, then there is a serious imbalance in my priorities and in my understanding of what it means to love and serve my God.

This story blends nicely with the parable of the Good Samaritan which went before it. Taken together they express what should be the essence of Christian living – action for others that is guided by what we learn in contemplation. This was the pattern of Jesus’ own life – he spent long hours bringing healing to people’s lives (being a neighbour) but also retired to quiet places to be alone in communion with his Father. The same pattern must be ours too. We call it being “contemplatives in action”.

Only Jesus

 This is a song that I heard last year when the ball started rolling, and when I felt the countdown started. But it's a song I can resonate with and is my prayer.

"Only Jesus"

Make it count, leave a mark, build a name for yourself
Dream your dreams, chase your heart, above all else
Make a name the world remembers
But all an empty world can sell is empty dreams
I got lost in the light when it was up to me
To make a name the world remembers
But Jesus is the only name to remember
And I, I don't want to leave a legacy
I don't care if they remember me
Only Jesus
And I, I've only got one life to live
I'll let every second point to Him
Only Jesus
All the kingdoms built, all the trophies won
Will crumble into dust when it's said and done
'Cause all that really mattered
Did I live the truth to the ones I love?
Was my life the proof that there is only One
Whose name will last forever?
And I, I don't want to leave a legacy
I don't care if they remember me
Only Jesus
And I, I've only got one life to live
I'll let every second point to Him
Only Jesus
Jesus is the only name
Jesus is the only name
Jesus is the only name to remember, oh
Jesus is the only name
Jesus is the only name
Jesus is the only name to remember
And I, I don't want to leave a legacy
I don't care if they remember me
Only Jesus
And I, I've only got one life to live
I'll let every second point to Him
Only Jesus
I don't want to leave a legacy
I don't care if they remember me
Only Jesus

Restarting Spiritual Direction

I decided to take up my own suggestion to seek help and direction. I contacted my spiritual companion from the Journey, Jade. 

To be honest, I tried preparing for the session but I wasn't sure what to expect. I just knew that I have been unsettled. I also knew that part of  this unsettling feeling is that I want to DO a lot of things, but I feel I am not achieving them. And also recognizing that I haven't been giving myself time to just be. And it reminds me of the picture I drew when I was at my silent retreat.


I remember the peace I felt as I drew this picture then. The comfort I felt, knowing that He was beside me, recognizing where I was in my life - the struggles, the pain, the heartache... and yet, still accepting me and loving me unconditionally as His child.

I've been very distracted with wanting to do many things that are meaningful for me. I feel like there is this huge countdown clock behind me and I'm trying to pack as many things as possible to fulfill before time stops. I remember Ann telling me to prioritize - what is God's plan for me? and I immediately said, to establish Safe Haven. 

So why aren't you working on it like you were, before your surgery and subsequent muscle injury?   

Honestly. I don't know. What is preventing me from restarting the group? Is it because I'm so drained and exhausted from doing everything else? I also recognize that my energy level has plunged since my second hospitalization. 

Maybe this is what is causing my feelings of being unsettled. I'm not doing what I've been given time to do.  But on the otherhand, I realize I'm not giving myself space to be as well. Again, i'm leaning towards defining my existence by the amount of things I do. 

Jade asked me really good questions which i need time to ponder upon.
- How is God inviting me to be His child?
- Have I had moments when I've been surprised by God's presence in my life
- Where is the grace of God in my life?
- What can I draw from these lessons?
- What is the posture of my heart? Am I looking towards Him or am I turning away?
- When does a gift become corrupted? where is the line?
- What is my call to His obedience?

I don't just need to clear my brain/mind fog. I need to clear my fogged heart as well. She said something that stuck with me. I can choose to focus more on the grace moments I've experienced. 

Lord, I want to find rest in You. I want to learn to enjoy Your presence. Please help me slow down.